Self
Deception & Egotism
One of the most dangerous attributes
that are mostly seen among the scholars and saints is egotism. It is the
same self-centredness for explaining the meaning whereof great teachers
of ethics and morals have written much.
Egotism is that man thinks himself to be great due to his material
attainments, be those actual virtues in him or only in his imagination.
Some have said: Egotism is that, man due to whatever attribute or
blessing he has thinks that he is great and becomes unmindful of the one
who granted all that to him. They have not considered it self-deceit and
egotism if one considers oneself to be better than others. It is Ujb
even if there is none besides one. Contrary to this, in case of pride,
it is necessary that there is somebody else so that the proud may be
able to imagine himself to be better than the other.
The late Allamah Majlisi (r.a.) has said: Ujb means to imagine one
self's deed as great and to be pleased with it is in such a way that he
does not consider him at fault but thinks that he has obliged Allah!
It can be said that there are stages or grades of self-deceit and
egotism. It is not necessary that the egotist must have crossed all the
stages. So it is mentioned in an authentic narration by Ali bin Suved
from Moosa bin Ja'far (a.s.): I inquired about the deed called ujb. The
Imam (a.s.) said: Some of the stages of it are that a bad deed appears
good to one, he considers it nice and becomes happy with it and thinks
that he has done a good thing.???
It is also one of the stages when man believes in God and imagines that
he has favoured Allah! Whereas the truth is that Allah has favoured him.
Because it was he who guided him to Faith
In short, it can be said that it is Ujb when man becomes happy with
himself and this is the very first stage of egotism. Sometimes pride and
self-centeredness also branch out from this stage and man begins to
imagine himself to be better than others. Sometimes it so happens that
he imagines that as a result of some of his good deeds he has acquired
some rights over Allah. Scholars have explained this subject from
various aspects.
There are many narrations in this matter. Here, we mention three of
them:
1 - Imam Sadiq (a.s.) said: Whoever is taken over by egotism is
finished.
2 - It is narrated either from Imam Sadiq (a.s.) or Imam Baqir (a.s.):
Two men enter a mosque. One is a worshipper and another sinner. Then
they get out of the Masjid in such a condition that the sinner becomes a
Mo-min and the Aabid turns into a sinner. The reason is that the
oft-worshipper enters the mosque happily taking pride in his worship and
thinks only about it whereas the sinner feels very ashamed of his
misdeeds and seeks Allah's pardon.
3 - The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) said: Lord Almighty addressed Prophet
Dawood (a.s.): O Dawood! Give good tidings to the sinners and warn the
truthful and righteous. Dawood said: How can I give good tidings to the
offenders and warn the pious? Came the commandment: O Dawood! Give good
news to the sinners that I accept repentance and forgive sins and
caution the truthful that they should not be self-centred due to their
good deeds because there is no slave who is called for giving the
account of his deeds ???and he is not destroyed.
Now that we have known that egotism is prohibited from the viewpoint of
traditions, let us discuss some other aspects of it:
1- Worldly and Otherworldly harms of ujb.
2- What is the sign of ujb?
3- How it can be cured?
From the viewpoint of worldly life the harms and corrupting effects of
egotism are many. We point out four of them that have been mentioned in
narrations:
A - Ujb means self-centeredness or egotism. Once man develops this evil
he is no more prepared to obtain any benefit from the centres of
knowledge or from knowledgeable persons, as he imagines himself on their
level and sometimes even above them. Due to this he drags behind in
scholarly achievements or in the progress of knowledge. He remains in a
state of multiple ignorance forever. So most of us, possibly know a
group of them, and in the words of our dear leader of the Islamic
revolution, Imam Khomeini (r.a.) which he had uttered in one of his
final addresses to the students:
Honourable sire! Learn lessons, before your age advance and you turbans
expand, because, then it is likely, you may not be ready to attend study
circles and benefit from them, even though, sometimes, man knows that
lesson is beneficial for him.
The master of the monotheists (a.s.) says:
Egotism prevents progress of knowledge.
He also says: Self-centeredness corrupts ones intelligence.
B - It is but natural that egotism makes a person unpleasant among the
people who become displeased with him and do not care for him. So the
Imam (a.s.) pointing to this, says: One who is pleased with himself
makes many people angry with him.
Yes, it must be said that egotism, in every meaning, is a harmful
ignorance. Imam Sadiq (a.s.) says: No ignorance and foolishness is more
harmful than egotism.
C - Egotism takes man away from reality. Consequently he is not able to
benefit from good deeds. For example, once Isa (a.s.) = Isa (a.s.) was
travelling with one of his companions. When they reached seashore, Isa
(a.s.), with full faith in the Lord of the worlds, uttered the Name of
Allah and began to walk on water. The youth accompanying him also took
the Name of God with full Faith and walked on water likewise. But,
during the walk in the sea, egotism took over the latter youth. So he
said to himself proudly: Now how is Isa (a.s.) superior to me? At the
very moment he entertained this thought he went down in the water.
Hazrat Isa (a.s.) saved him and said: This happened due to egotism in
you. If you repent you will return to your earlier condition. The youth
repented and gained his earlier status.
D - An egotist mostly has failed and will fail because the Holy Quran,
says in regard to the unbelievers: Whatever is in the heavens and
whatever is in the earth declares the Glory of Allah, and He is the
Mighty, the wise. He is who caused those who disbelieved of the
followers of the Book to go forth from their homes at the first
banishment; you did not think that they would go forth, while they were
certain that their fortresses would defend them against Allah; but Allah
came to them whence they did not expect, and cast terror into their
hearts; they demolished their houses with their own hands and the hands
of the believers; therefore take a lesson, O you who have eyes!
The Otherworldly Harm of Egotism
Egotism makes deeds meaningless. The Holy Quran says: Say: Shall we
inform you of the greatest losers in their deeds? These are they whose
labour is lost in their life and they think that they are well-versed in
skill of the work of hands.
And again says: What! Is he whose evil deed is made fair seeming to him
so much so that he considers it good is like the one who sees the Truth?
Yes, those who think in this way destroy their good deeds, in a way, by
casting favour. So says the Holy Quran: O you who believe do not make
your charity worthless by reproach and injury, like him who spends his
property to be seen of men.
We conclude this discussion with a narration from Imam Sadiq (a.s.):
Egotism is a plant the seed whereof is kufr unbelief and its ground is
nifaq (disharmony) and its water is oppression and its branches are
foolishness and its leaf is waywardness and its fruit is condemnation
and dumping in Hell. So whoever adopts egotism has cultivated and sown
the see of blasphemy and its cultivation will be discord and know that
they are bound to get this fruit.
Sign of Ujb
Obviously the sign of egotism is that one considers oneself better than
others and in the Words of the Holy Quran: Nay! Man is evidence against
himself, though he puts forth his excuses.
And likewise Imam Sadiq (a.s.) said: The one who does not recognise the
personality of others is the one who is an egotist. |